Hello! This is Dr. Eva Yacobi here. I’m a Naturopathic Doctor, a graduate of Bastyr University in California, who specializes in women’s health, particularly hormonal health, mental health, and autoimmune disease. I am also a trauma-informed functional medicine practitioner and soon-to-be sex, love, and relationship coach! Yes, I love to learn, but even more so, I love to guide people in the transformation of their health and their lives. As the new year begins, it’s a great time to look at your relationship with your femininity.
Femininity in the Modern Era
Navigating “femalehood” in our fast-paced modern society where the pressures to take on so many roles and do the invisible work is the expectation without much appreciation on the flip side. Businesswoman, teacher, mother, sister, lover, house manager, financial manager, housekeeper, assistant, role model…and the list goes on.
I see the toll this takes day in and day out as I work with professional women and stay-at-home moms alike. As a Naturopathic Doctor, the result I see over and over is burnout, fatigue, irritability, inability to lose weight, unable to handle challenging (and not so challenging) situations anymore because their nervous system is just too fried, the inability to fall asleep and/or stay asleep. From a disease standpoint, it shows up as hypothyroidism, autoimmune diseases, like Hashimoto’s thyroiditis, PCOS, endometriosis, eczema, IBS, IBD, Crohn’s disease…the list goes on!
I was invited by Bookstr to share a few of my favorite books in the realm of women’s health, sex, love, and relationships for the new year. Without further ado, here are five recommendations that are beneficial to women of all ages.
David Deida dives into all the aspects of the feminine, from spirituality to lovemaking and sexuality. He debunks the fairy tale version of love we have been fed and speaks the truth about relationships, choosing a man, and love. The quality of our intimate relationships significantly contributes to one’s overall health, vitality, and aliveness as a woman. Dear Lover brings holistic guidance for a woman in choosing her man, tapping into her sexual essence, and nurturing the connection with her lover. This is an absolute must for women (and even men) to understand the feminine.
Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliot, PhD
This book will blow the doors open on the inner shadow. Carolyn Elliot offers that we get off on all the things we have in life that we dislike, just as we get off in orgasmic pleasure. Our shadows are what play in the background, causing repeating cycles in our health, our financial lives, and romantic lives…these cycles often leave us feeling like a victim and powerless. When they become illuminated, we have the power to start making new choices not from a place of “should” but rather from a place of honoring oneself.
So whether it is choosing different foods, moving on a daily basis or even a totally different man (or woman) life can start to move and shapeshift in a whole new way. Stuck with repeating patterns in life, Existential Kink will start to shake things up and get things moving.
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
Breaks and accelerators…we women are wired differently from one to the next. What may turn one woman on may cause a freeze response in another. As women trying to navigate intimate relationships while dating or in committed relationships understanding your body and responses is key to creating and sustaining a confident and joyful sex life. Consider…there is nothing wrong with you; you aren’t doing anything wrong or right; it’s simply understanding your wiring…that is what Come as You Are will help you decipher.
Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom by Christiane Northrup, MD
Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom is a must-have bible for women. Dr. Northrup beautifully ties together the physical ailments women navigate with the mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects, which almost always are connected. From fertility to female anatomy, pregnancy, motherhood, menopause, and more, it is all broken down in Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom.
Wild Power by Alexandra Pope and Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer
The power of the menstrual cycle, the ultimate superpower of women, when it is understood and respected. Wild Power is a guidebook to understanding how to work with each phase of the menstrual cycle in such a way that will support you in thriving through life. Instead of banging your head against a wall each month and fighting against your body (which is both painful and exhausting), learning how to move in rhythm with your natural cycles and rhythms opens the door to being more productive, more self-honoring, and more in tune with life.
Embrace Your Femininity
See, being a woman is a beautiful thing. Often charged as emotional, volatile, irritable, and bitchy, the reality of being a woman is an epic spectrum. Bliss, love, and ecstasy, as much as it is emotional, volatile, irritable, and bitchy. This range of emotionality is, in fact, one of our greatest superpowers (as is our menstrual cycle).
So, how do we navigate the monumental gift of being a woman? We look and work below the surface. We look at our relationships, our shadows, our relationship to sex and sexuality, our food, movement, stress management, and habits. It’s all the pieces.
These 5 books have impacted both myself and my clients and patients profoundly, and I do hope that they will have the same impact on you.
For all things women, hormonal health, sex, love, and empowerment, please join me on Instagram @drevawellness, and you can find me on my website as well, www.drevayacobi.com.