5 Powerful Books of Healing from Loss and Gaining a New Love

Losing a partner is one of the most gut-wrenching experiences, but you aren’t alone. Learn to heal with these five books about loss and finding new love.

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Losing a loved one is incredibly agonizing, and each loss is uniquely painful. The loss of a partner is no different, and it may feel overwhelming, terrifying, and like healing is impossible, that the pain will never fade. But it’s never impossible, or too late, to start healing, no matter how long the process is, or in what form it takes. The list of books below may help.

The Tender Scar: Life After the Death of a Spouse by Richard Mabry

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This book seeks to give hope and heal those who have endured the pain of losing a spouse. Mabry uses his journey and journal entries he wrote after his wife died to lead to a discussion about the grieving process. This is a second edition, which now includes a chapter on finding love again, second marriages, and blended families.

Grieving the Loss of a Love by Dr. Eleora Han

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It’s normal to grieve the end of a relationship, whether it ended due to death, a divorce, or a breakup. And everyone who goes through this loss can use wisdom, comfort, and connection. Dr. Eleora Han uses both professional and personal experience to show a realistic and moving depiction of grief and explains that embracing grief, rather than rejecting it, can help us stay rooted in love. No matter how painful the loss is, it is possible to make it through.

Comfort for the Grieving Spouse’s Heart by Gary Roe

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Losing a partner is incredibly traumatic, yet the world keeps moving. It feels unreal, in the face of devastation and heartache, that life doesn’t stop. Gary Roe, a grief counselor, has been helping grieving hearts heal and find hope again. This book is full of compassion and warmth, acting almost like a friend in helping people to navigate their grief.

Loving Again After Loss of a Spouse by Bryan F Paz

'Loving Again After Loss Of A Spouse' by Bryan F Paz with a man and woman smiling and touching foreheads.
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It can be hard to think of loving again after losing a partner. But it’s possible, and this book is here to act as a guide to healing and self-discovery for those who find themselves falling in love after such a difficult loss. It gives advice, personal stories, and exercises to help people understand their feelings, both old and new, and to empower others to create the lives they desire and deserve.

Finding Love After Loss by Marti Benedetti and Mary A. Dempsey

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Romantic love is a complex, confusing, and, at times, painful emotion. Yet many of us still seek it out, including women who have already loved and lost. This book includes interviews with such women, along with advice from experts to give other widowed women guidance on trying to date again. The journey can be terrifying, exhilarating, and extraordinary — but for many, it’s worth it.

Healing takes time, so hopefully this list helps, if only a little. Remember to be kind to yourself and your heart.


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