Healthy Tips for Teen Romance: Finding Magic in the Pages

Let’s talk about teen romance. Here are a few tips for teens reading romance and must need reads!

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Let’s talk about teen romance… Whether you are a teen dreaming of your own heart-fluttering love story or a young adult seeking a novel with some passion or excitement, there is no denying the genre itself holds such a compelling allure. Teen romance holds a special place on the bookshelf, showcasing a canvas for exploring love, laughter, and yes, even shedding a tear or two. It’s supposed to be silly, and funny, and above all, it is meant to make you feel good!

However, I do want to highlight a few misconceptions and healthy tips for teens diving into romance novels for the first or fiftieth time. While these books can be a source of joy and entertainment, it’s crucial not to glorify the negative aspects or get lost in rose-tinted ideals that don’t reflect the complexities of real-world relationships.

Seeking Positive Role Models

I’m not trying to say to find the perfect person, a cherub throughout the entire novel. That’s annoying and probably super boring… But find books where the characters learn and grow through all these difficult decisions and twists that life throws at them.

The Princess Diaries by Meg Cabot, showig a pink cover with a small crown and a heart shaped lock on the right.

Take Mia from The Princess Diaries by Meg Cabot. She’s shy, an awkward outcast, and a little self-conscious. She struggles to find her place in the world, her social status, her insecurities, and her unrequited crush on her best friend’s brother. Yet, she is a fiercely empathetic character. She puts others before herse own needs at times. As the story develops she evolves from this timid teenager into a confident and strong young woman. She learns to embrace her quirks and imperfections, realizing that true beauty comes from within.

Recognizing Red Flags

Alright, let’s get this straight. A hot, possessive, toxic, controlling romance love interest… is just a hot, possessive, toxic, controlling piece of trash. You will come across books with cringy love interests who are given the benefit of the doubt because their hot… But if you ever witness these relationships in real life that are waving a red flag as big as a bullfighter cape… run for the hills!

Eleanor and Park by Rainbow Rowell, showing two people facing away from the reader with headphones on. The headphones are connected by the wire.

Eleanor and Park by Rainbow Rowell, is a refreshing example of healthy and fun relationships. Despite differences and challenges, no red flags are waving with alarm bells blaring—just genuine support, kindness, and a safe space for each other to be their true selves. Eleanor and Park encourage each other to pursue their passions and grow together, creating a love that’s both genuine and heartwarming to read.

Chivalry is not dead. And sure, these toxic relationships might be fun to read, juicy even, but as long as it is not glorifying it. And as long as we recognize this is not an ideal relationship. Just keep an eye out and not take these ideas to your real life.

Explore Non-Romantic Relationships

Let’s take a short detour to the land of platonic love… Yes, you heard me right—we’re talking about those perfect, pure, and utterly platonic connections that make our hearts sing (without any mushy stuff involved). I know we are talking about romance, but I encourage you to look out for some Romance novels with a friendship subplot. I love YA novels that show the best rock-solid friends that will break into prison for the other. You know… the ride-or-dies. Friendships are the backbones of so many amazing stories!

Heist Society by Ally Carter, showing a person with large sunglasses on and the sunglasses showing a reflection of a painting.

Heist Society by Ally Carter is one of those novels where romance takes a backseat to the thrill of pulling off daring heists with your partners in crime. Meet Kat and Hale, childhood friends with a playful banter that could light up a room (aka friends to lovers perfection). But the gang doesn’t stop there. Gabby, Kat’s ride-or-die companion who’s more like a sister, would follow her to the ends of the earth. And then there’s Simon, the comedic relief with a heart of gold, always ready for the next wild adventure. Together, they’re a found family, blending friendship, loyalty, and a band of thieves who care for each other deeply.

Overall, teen romance is a genre that might have its fair share of cheesy cliches and cringy love interests. But that doesn’t make it unworthy of your time. Romance is supposed to be a fun escape from reality. So go ahead, dive in. Let yourself get swept away by the passion, excitement, and swoon over imaginary characters. Who cares? Be a dreamer. Just remember to keep one foot in reality.

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