5 Books That Teach Self-Love & Say ‘It’s Ok To Be Single’

Here are 5 books to learn more self-love!

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February can be a lonely time for many people. Surviving the colder weather and short days can prove to be a challenge. Throw in Valentine’s Day and February becomes possibly one of the hardest times to be single. So much so that February 15th has been deemed ‘Singles Awareness Day’. So, in honor of this potentially depressing season, here are some books that may help you learn to love being single, or at least keep you sane while you search for your next romantic adventure.

The Unexpected Joy Of Being Single by Catherine Gray


Do you hit the panic button every time you realize that you have been single for too long? Do you spend hours scrolling through dating apps to no avail? Have no fear, Catherine Gray is here to help teach you that being single is no reason to freak out. 

How To Be Single And Happy by Jennifer Taitz


Jennifer Taitz is not just some random person talking about their experience with relationships. She is a clinical psychologist that has interviewed hundreds. In this book, Taitz speaks about being happy and the mindsets that will help you remain joyful, whether you’re single or not. 

How To Get Over A Boy by Chidera Eggerue


In this book, Chidera Eggerue, aka The Slumflower, shows readers how to reframe their goals and mindsets- if their current mindset revolves around finding and pleasing men. If you like this recommendation, also check out Eggerue’s other book What a Time to Be Alone: The Slumflower’s Guide to Why You Are Already Enough.

How to Love Yourself (and Sometimes Other People): Spiritual Advice for Modern Relationships by Meggan Watterson and Lodro Rinzler


They say you can’t love other people until you love yourself. While I don’t necessarily agree with that sentiment, self-love is generally a good practice. This book takes a look at love, self-worth, and loneliness from a more spiritual perspective. Additionally, its co-written aspect allows for the book to include different opinions and advice on different topics. Overall, it’s about learning to love yourself, despite how hard it might seem.

It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong) Reasons You’re Single
by Sara Eckel


If being single makes you question everything about yourself, then this recommendation is for you. Outsiders often say phrases like “she’s just too picky” or “they’re way too needy”. When these phrases become internalized, it is easy to think there is something wrong with ourselves. Thankfully, Sara Eckel wrote It’s Not You to dispel these myths and teach people that there is no one definitive answer to “Why am I single?”

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