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Toxic Positivity: A Feedback Loop of Delusional Thinking

Positive vibes only! I’m positive that many of you have heard that phrase time and time again. Whether it’s a post from a ditsy person you follow or from a friend and/or coworker that is cleaning house on the dim vibes their social circle is providing in excess, there’s no shortage of this mentality nowadays. There’s nothing discernable with excluding things and at times people from your life that drain you more than inspire you but there’s always a logical extreme that a new perspective can invite. Inside these artificial injections of good feelings into varying difficulties in life lies a dark side to the dosage that proves just as harmful as a purely pessimistic point of view.

Toxic positivity is that extreme in which any perceived negative experience is rendered mute when one simply brushes said event aside with a positive note. Indeed there is nothing wrong with trying to toughen one’s hide when school or work or romance isn’t playing fair by remaining bright in dark moments but people should proceed with caution. The problem arises with the excess of this method, treating things like sadness, anger, or even criticism with the same vigor as a household pest. Emotions are infinitely more complex than that. Despite mental protests to feelings of sadness, the emotion felt shouldn’t be suppressed with a faux smile but rather it should be simply felt and hopefully dealt with. It won’t be easy especially during the trial but as the age-old adage of the only way out is through ultimately etches the proper mode of operation.

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Negative feelings aren’t necessarily blights to be excised like an infection it’s a natural part of being a healthy person in an ever-challenging world. It sets a terrible precedent when you ask troubled young individuals to refuse their emotions with thoughts like “You’re doing great” and “Think happy thoughts”. In reality, it mostly leads to insidious feelings of guilt over being angry or sad in the first place. The feedback loop occurs when this guilt born of dismissiveness leaves no room for psychological growth because the negativity wasn’t dealt with nor was it properly felt, it was crudely jammed under the floorboards of the mind. When the next tear-worthy event happens the same few sayings are used again starting the process anew. If it’s not put in check with a fair amount of honesty then the nightmarish wheel turns unending eventually leading the individuals into a delusional point of view about negativity whether constructive or otherwise.

As a sufferer of depression myself, I’m well aware of the damaging effects of dishonest thoughts on both edges of the spectrum. Overtly negative thought cycles were the norm when my case was at its worst and it took what seems like forever to fish myself out of that hole. The stepping stones weren’t built from the same material each level up, it was consistently inconsistent. I didn’t climb from thoughts of radical positivity nor did I purely run off the noxious fumes of self-hate. I appreciated both sides and added a dash of objectivity until months passed and I realized I was in a better place than before.

Soon I’d come across social media posts pushing for this toxic positivity point of view to followers for years with it seemingly peaking on the biggest platform of the medium Tik Tok. In between the short clips of paunchy women cutting jigs to random pop music are videos of young men and women pushing for everyone to always feel wonderful. I don’t wish to siphon the message of its goodness as I know these can be healthy reminders to take life a little less seriously when things get tough but there should be a cap. Sweet thoughts like these should be taken in moderation like candy lest viewers risk a life ache so to speak. It’s a classic case of impact versus intention because these content creators are usually sufferers themselves the last thing they’d want is for people’s cases to worsen from their message. Thankfully there is a better way to deal out positivity without it morphing into an ouroboros of a self-hating head eating its own patronizing tail.

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Toxic positivity gained a decent amount of traction in the literary world as well. Recently the phenomenon amassed a handful of authors to write books against the belief system albeit in a more righteous fashion. Books like Briah Fleming’s Be Positive: Fuck Toxic Positivity and T.R. Tucker’s Toxic Positivity are just a few of many short books that affirm a positive attitude toward life while acknowledging negativity in a healthy way to ward off the toxicity of either end of the thought spectrum. Tucker’s entry even warns of the ever-increasing verbiage of motivational speakers as a particularly unrecognized sore spot since the coming of the digital age. These authors seek a more honest approach to alleviate the anxious and depressed while making sure the feelings being dealt with are at the very least constructive to someday inspire hope in the troubled hearts of so many out there, not purely striving off of it. So in the spirit of Mental Health Awareness Month, I’d also like to throw in a positive yet diligent thought to my fellow depressives out there dealing with some less than favorable times:

Hope is life’s sweetest spice. It enhances the flavor of any recipe it touches but it is not the whole recipe. It’s not the meat nor the vegetables for spices can only mold the working parts together into true satisfaction but the spice can be deceiving. It can fool the most skilled of tounges into believing it’s the only delicious component. It convinces them so much so that the deceived fill their mouths with spice until it foams and forces them to crudely cough the specks of what was once pure and beautiful toward the starving few. The meat and the broth and the vegetables aren’t beautiful like the spice in fact some are truly grueling but they’re all key in the recipe. Each part working to culminate to true satisfaction only to be brought together with only a pinch of vigor. As such life needs hope but it is not the whole recipe. Use your spices wisely my friends.

Enter To Win: Wellness Kit Including Yoga Mat, Candles, Journal, And More Along With $100 Gift Card

The last year taught many of us an important lesson: taking care of your wellness and health is vital to your life—your health is more important than anything else. Many of us believe that the condition of our health is determined by how we look or how much we weigh, or that being healthy only consists of eating well and exercising regularly. In times like these, we might even think that the condition of being in good health is merely the absence of sickness.

However, wellness goes far beyond that. It goes beyond our physical health and extends well into mental, emotional, and spiritual health as well. Your body, mind, and spirit are all connected, and not taking care of one can be just as harmful as not taking care of the others. Well, we have Dr. Suzanne Steinbaum, Dondeena Bradley Ph.D, and Sonia Satra, founder, and CEO of Moticise, teaming up with Bookstr for a Mega-Wellness Giveaway this month.

Yoga, meditation, hydration, and mindfulness are all things that can help you to ensure that you’re living a life of wellness, and will help to benefit both your mind and body.

So, to help you make 2021 the year of health, we have teamed up with three wellness authors and speakers with a giveaway to help you make your health a top priority this year!

 

What You Can Win:

    • Dr. Suzanne Steinbaum’s Heart Book
    • Dondeena Bradley’s Living Full Circle 
    • Yoga Mat
    • Gourmet Mood Tea
    • Water bottle
    • Aromatherapy Candles
    • Wellness Journal
    • Oxygen and Heart monitor
    • Dr. Suzanne’s Beanie
    • Sonia’s Mindset Reset Bundle download
    • $100 Gift Card

Mega-Wellness Giveaway (Contest on Hive.co)

 

About Sonia Satra

Sonia Satra is a mindset & fitness thought leader who specializes in personal transformation for women by integrating the mind, body, & emotion to create lasting change. As the founder & CEO of Moticise, an award-winning lifestyle wellness program that combines movement with mindset, Sonia travels the world helping people reach their own personal greatness. Sonia is a certified NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming) Practitioner, as well as a holistic health coach and certified fitness instructor.

Sonia has appeared in the Huffington Post, CBS, Fox, the Examiner, Celeb Dirty Laundry, Celebrity Parenting, Women Fitness, and other outlets.

 

About Dr. Suzanne Steinbaum

She is the author of Heart Book: Every Woman’s Guide to a Heart-Healthy Life, teaching all women how to lead the healthiest lives by living from the heart and Lower Your Blood Pressure Naturally, with the editors of Prevention. She has been awarded a New York Times Super Doctor, a Castle and Connolly Top Doctor for Cardiovascular Disease, and New York Magazine’s prestigious Best Doctors in the New York edition. She became focused on the connection between the mind and the heart and how behavioral change is often driven by perception, resilience, and support.

Dr. Suzanne is in private practice in New York City, and is the president of SRSHeart.

 

About Dondeena Bradley, Ph.D

Dondeena is the author of Living Full Circle: Simple Ancient Rituals for Modern Life.  She is an expert in identifying the benefits of health and well-being practices and translating them into practical ways that people can adopt into their daily lives.

She has spent thousands of hours challenging teams to deliver breakthroughs in health and wellness innovation with consistent success in diverse cultures at a number of Fortune 500 companies. She is a master at bringing people together with varying perspectives in order to extract new insights that creates traction toward a better outcome.

She shared her conviction for health at TedxOrangeCoast in the talk “Let’s Create a Society Addicted to Health.”  Dondeena’s formal education includes a Doctor of Philosophy in Food Science and a Master of Science in nutrition. She is an avid reader, curious explorer and grateful for any time spent rejuvenating in nature.

 

About the Books

Heart Book: Every Woman’s Guide to a Heart-Healthy Life

Heart disease is the leading cause of death among women in the United States. As a cardiologist with specializations in preventative cardiology and women’s heart disease, Dr. Suzanne Steinbaum has dedicated her career to empowering women to keep their hearts, and themselves, healthy. She has observed that patients who seem to be at the peak of their lives are also often at the peak of their stress levels. Instead of enjoying better health and happiness, and reaping the rewards of career and family achievements, many of the women who come to see her suffer from chest pain, palpitations, and other alarming symptoms. Often, the cause is lifestyle-related, calling for a holistic approach that transcends medical intervention alone.

 

The regimen Dr. Steinbaum developed has transformed thousands of lives and is now available to every woman in Dr. Suzanne Steinbaum’s Heart Book.

 

Living Full Circle: Simple Ancient Rituals for Modern Life

In a hectic world filled with trendy products and expensive retreats designed to reduce stress and anxiety, it’s easy to get lost and overwhelmed just trying to find ways to be well. However, as product innovation and well-being services expert Dondeena Bradley shows in this book, the key to sustained wellness has always been within reach with ancient, tried-and-true practices.

In Living Full Circle, Bradley translates time-tested and proven healing remedies into practical tools for taking care of yourself. Guiding you through the vast landscape of health and wellness, Bradley focuses on traditional methods and applies them to today’s modern world. These classic and simple techniques will ultimately enable you to rejuvenate your daily rituals, ground and reconnect with all five of your senses, and improve your overall well-being.

 

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Bookstr Wellness: Carey Davidson with host Klay William (Part 2)

 We’re chatted  with author and and executive Carey Davidson with host Klay William. We’ll be discussing her book “The Five Archetypes.” We’ll be asking them all about the process of wellness, mastering work and personal relationship in the dark ages! Carey Davidson is the founder and leader of Tournesol, a holistic health think tank collaborative in New York City. Make sure to leave your questions in the comments.
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Bookstr Wellness: Carey Davidson with host Klay William

 We’re chatted  with author and and executive Carey Davidson with host Klay William. We’ll be discussing her book “The Five Archetypes.” We’ll be asking them all about the process of wellness, mastering work and personal relationship in the dark ages! Carey Davidson is the founder and leader of Tournesol, a holistic health think tank collaborative in New York City. Make sure to leave your questions in the comments.