I’ve done it almost my whole life, practically everyday, and for every situation. I know, it could be worse, but it’s still a pain in the ass. Perhaps that’s why I chose to become an English major: it’s our job to overanalyze and look deeply into everything. Regardless, being an over-thinker isn’t something to always be proud of.
Overthinkers, or ruminators as they’re sometimes called, can take a simple situation and twist it into something completely different. Usually we make it negative when that’s not the case at all. If someone does one thing out of the norm, they must be annoyed with us. If that guy is talking to you, he must be manipulating you into a date. You got that new job, but what if they hate you after a month?
Please, no! Stop right there. That mind frame without a doubt ruins everything. Life is too short and some things are just too good! Will you ever know what the future holds? No way in hell. If that simple fact can’t break your habits, then give the next few books a chance, from one over-thinker to another.
For all my analytical ladies out there, this one is for you. Dr. Nolen-Hoeksema, a renowned psychologist, has broken down the growing number of women stuck in an overthinking rut. From anxiety to depression, overthinking can be so much more than annoying thoughts. The good doctor gives us concrete examples for how to overcome those thoughts, and simply enjoy life.
If you’re not into serious self-help books, this is a story worth reading. Bob Miglani had one chance to go back to India, his place of birth. Leaving behind financial and familial worries, he crossed paths with people he never could’ve imagined. Marriage after two dates, struggling to make ends meet, buses packed with a hundred people. All these and more came with lessons that taught Miglani what it means to truly live in every moment.
Those who can’t seem to break free from the chains of overthinking should give this book a go. Really get into your brain by delving into the psyche and what sets off these tangents of negative thoughts. There’s tips on how to reverse them, how to avoid social media involvement, and plenty of advice for the ruminators.
This is actually perfect if you’re looking to settle your mind and gain a better perspective. This book holds 121 questions with space for your answers, thoughts, and notes. Each one only takes about five minutes, but they’re proven to better your well-being and physical and emotional health. I have two different journals and I can say this: they definitely help. Get all those thoughts onto paper and let them stay there. Questions don’t have to be complicated and never-ending; sometimes the answer is right in front of you.