It’s the end of the decade. According to Publisher’s Weekly, “the feminist bookstores in the nation’s largest cities are experiencing the most significant upticks in sales, as well as in foot traffic.” Here is a list of four books on Feminism and a brief summary of each in case you are curious and want to convert to the sisterhood.
In this book, Friedan broke new ground as it was the very first book of its kind to establish that women were in fact, not solely made of “beauty, charm, and sweetness” as Freud said. Freidan conducted surveys and studies at Smith College and determined that housewives of the midcentury were, in fact, not happy as the housewife-mother archetype and felt they could not voice their feelings about their subservience. Freidan’s book changed the landscape for many women of the late 1950s and going forward.
Beauvoir’s book is considered by many to be the starting point of second-wave feminism—certainly in France. She writes about the treatment and experiences of women through history, men being the “default” and women considered the “other.” She concludes that it is pointless to argue over who is superior, men or women, but that men’s station in life is clearly preferred, and women should certainly fight for liberation until it is in their grasp.
The author says though social power and prominence of women in society has increased, so has pressure to conform to unrealistic physical standards of beauty. This is a problem, she maintains, as it deters women from careers and leads to eating disorders, an increase in cosmetic surgery, and general obsession and hatred among women over their bodies. This is an important read!
This book was written and published at the dawn of the new millennium and is the epitome of what intersectionality means, aka where race, sex, and class all meet. This book is truly accessible to all readers. Hooks states, “As long as women are using class or race power to dominate other women, feminist sisterhood cannot be fully realized.” Amen.
It’s the end of the year, and the holiday season is upon us. Recommence all family feuds, jealousies, battles, and drunken tirades about who has the nicer house and who was the favorite child growing up and so forth. If you seek to escape some of the mayhem I’ve got some good book recommendations, short stories, and the like below all related to Thanksgiving…but in a good way, trust me. Check it out.
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F. Scott Fitzgerald is most well-known for writing The Great Gatsby, but in his book of essays, The Crack-Up, you’ll find a hilarious list of joke recipes called “Turkey Remains and How to Inter Them with Numerous Scarce Recipes.” For example, I suppose you could “take one large turkey and add one gallon of Vermouth plus a demijohn of angostura bitters then shake.” How about #12? “Turkey with Whiskey Sauce. This recipe” Fitzgerald writes, “is for a party of four. Obtain a gallon of whiskey, allow it to age for several hours. Then serve, allowing one quart for each guest. The next day the turkey should be added, little by little, constantly stirring and basting.” This is how I treat post-Thanksgiving leftovers, don’t you?
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Charlotte Perkins Gilman wrote the short story “Three Thanksgivings” about the difficulty of economic independence for women in the late 19th century. In this story, an older woman named Mrs. Morrison can no longer afford her big house and is being pursued by her children and a mean man named Mr. Butts (well done Charlotte) to give up her house and move in with them. Instead, Mrs. Morrison finds another way. If you’re interested, it’s a short but pretty good read for girl-empowerment on Thanksgiving.
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Rachel Khong’s novel Goodbye, Vitamin has nothing to do with Thanksgiving except family. It came out in 2017 and made almost every must-read and bestseller list, for good reason. It’s a fiction novel narrated by a just-jilted thirty-something named Ruth. In the introduction, it’s Christmas Eve and Ruth receives a call about a man whose pants are hanging from an illuminated tree. They are her father’s; he has been diagnosed with dementia. She has nothing to do but go back home and help her mother take care of him. This theme, however, of memory and forgetfulness plays out through the novel, with beautiful and sometimes hilarious prose. Her father, for instance, has kept a memory journal all these years of what Ruth said as a child. He reads bits and pieces to her: “Today we went over to your mother’s friend’s house for dinner. We’d asked you to be polite, so you said, ‘No more please, it’s horrible, thank you.’ ” There are other far more eloquent lines like, “What imperfect carriers of love we are, and what imperfect givers…that the reasons we can care for one another can have nothing to do with the person cared for.” Enough of me spoiling this book for you. Read it if you haven’t already.
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I’m going to go out on a limb and mention a book that has absolutely no connection to any holiday. It’s called Where the Forest Meets the Stars. There is a man who is an agoraphobic egg seller and an ornithologist in her twenties whose bout with cancer has left her feeling deformed and unsexy. Both are too afraid to love anyone. The woman is finishing her Ph.D. when she and the egg-seller both come across a runaway girl who insists on sleeping in both of their yards. She also insists that she is an alien made of starlight from a planet called Hetrayeh. You wonder halfway through if the book is actual science fiction and well, maybe it is, I will never tell you. I will warn you though that some parts are cheesy love-making, yes the book can be cheesy, even when the characters aren’t having sex, but if you like a joyful ending, then this book is for you. So go forth, and eat the delicious whiskey-interred turkey, and read these books!
If you’re a writer, then you probably have at least two voices in your head, one in each ear. One voice tells you that what you’re writing is the best thing ever, the next Harry Potter/Game of Thrones/Hunger Games. The other voice tells you that you’re a terrible writer and you should just give up.
You suck down those fears and put a smile on your face. You’re a writer, and you have a short story of a novel or maybe you even have both. You submit your work and sit back.
It’s a stab in the gut, and the ‘thanks’ only adds salt to the wound. You suck it up and submit again. Maybe this time you’ll submit to a smaller agency, a tinier magazine. You hit send:
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Thanks to The Gotham Writers Conference, we at Bookstr were able to listen in on a lecture given by Kim Laio, author of the essay published on Lit Hub Why You Should Aim for 100 Rejections a Year. Since everyone had a paper and pen, she had the listeners in the audience go through two different exercises. The first exercise was as follows:
Writer down your hopes and dreams as a writer
After telling everyone to do this, the room was filled with a long contemplative silence filled only with the soft scribbling of pens and the soft groaning rattles of the radiator. When everyone’s pens were done, and after some time after that, Kim Liao said this:
Now skip a line. Protect your hopes and dreams.
After giving us a clear warning that her next two directions were “worse” then she first direction, she gave us the second:
Answer what’s stopping you from achieving those dreams
And then the third:
What’s underling these anxieties?
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She then turned to the audience, asking them what they answered. Don’t fret, the only people who answered were those who raised their hands and were given the microphone. One person told us a story about how they were writing a book about a “terrible cult” and the effects their actions brought upon their family.
A book about cults? Count me in!
She then said she hadn’t told anyone about the book for the longest time because, well, there was a certain personal conflict with the book.
What was the person problem? Her brother.
Her brother was a member of the cult. He left the cult, but became an apologist for the cult.
It was only after this person was able to tell her brother about the book and give him it that she was able to move on. She doesn’t know if he read the book, if he was angry or upset, but he had the book and it was out of her hands.
This story is about the third direction Kim Liao gave us: What’s underling these anxieties? Turns out the most common reason for anxieties about your hopes and dreams about becoming a writer is this daunting question, “What will happen if you tell the truth?”
See, if you’re a writer, then you probably have at least two voices in your head, one in each ear. One voice tells you that what you’re writing is the best thing ever, the next Harry Potter/Game of Thrones/Hunger Games. The other voice tells you that you’re a terrible writer and you should kill yourself.
Both of these voices are toxic.
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Fiction, non-fiction, they all deal with truths. Even if the book takes place on another planet or another dimension, there is always a person connection the writer has with the work. It came from them, and now it’s out there on a bone writer paper written in black ink. It’s literally out there in black and white, and most often we are afraid to show it because of fear.
That right there is a personal rejection. No one has rejected the story except you. If you’re thinking about your worst review, as one person at the conference was, stop that. Any craft, be it writing or construction or electric or running, gets better as you do it more and more. So keep it, and silence the voice that tells you you’re a terrible writer and know that the story you are telling is one that only you could tell.
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Now sit back. Remember that voice that tell you you’re writing is the best thing ever, the next Harry Potter/Game of Thrones/Hunger Games? Bring down your expectations. Humble yourself.
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Even the authors of those books didn’t know they were writing something as huge as those. Heck, I’d bet George R R Martin has days where he’d wish Game of Thrones wasn’t as big as it was so the pressure would be off as he finished up Winds of Winter.
Tamper your arrogance, erase your fears
Now you’re ready to submit. Then you get a rejection. And then another one. And then another one after that.
So what do you do?
Well, what do you think that Kim Laio, author of the essay published on Lit Hub Why You Should Aim for 100 Rejections a Year is going to tell you?
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Get 100 rejections of year
This is how you do that:
Set up an excel spreadsheet
Set up one column for the number
Set up one column for the story
Set up one column for the publishing house/agent
Don’t worry, we understand. One-hundred rejections a year? A hundred times of people stabbing you in the gut with that “No, thanks,” as though the ‘thanks’ at the end of that sentence means anything? No, thanks, you go, but don’t reject me now!
According to Kim Liao, she heard this advice from a friend and thought it was the “best advice ever.” By collecting a hundred rejections a year, you’re making it yourself mission. Your goal now isn’t to get published, but to wrap up the rejection list. When you get a rejection now, you can now log it into the spreadsheet and get that rush of a dopamine because you’re productive. That rush, that split second happiness, makes you feel motivated to go and put yourself out there again.
It isn’t about collecting those rejections slips so you know who to stick it to when you make a ton of money, that’s not why Stephen King collected his rejection slips, it’s to give yourself a goal, to turn your disappoint into a mission to keep going and wrap up the rejection list. You’re accepting that you’re going to get rejected and now you’re striving to do so. Odds are at least one person will accept your story. Plus, if you want to be a writer, you have to get used to it.
“For a writer, it’s mostly rejections.”
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Rejections aren’t all bad. Remember: “The door isn’t closing, the path if shifting.”
Rejections can create relationships. Your expert query letter may prove that while the agent isn’t interested in your current work, he/she might be interested in your work as a writer. They might ask to see something else or, worst case, they now know your name. Your name is out there, like a plane traveling across the beach, and you never know who might see your banner.
At this point in the conference, Kim Liao gave us the audience a second set of direction. With pens and notebooks at the ready, the silence was palpable. These are the sets in full:
List 5 or more things you can do in the next year
List 4 things you can do in the next 6 months
List 3 things you can do in the next 2 months
List 2 things you can do this month
List 1 things you can do this week
So what’re you waiting for?
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Go on Twitter and search for submission calls. Look for agents and editors, most agents and editors post their emails on their Twitter.
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Maybe you should set up a blog; just remember to “write lots of posts in advance.”
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Set up a writing schedule. A writing schedule isn’t necessary just writing. Put time aside for pitching, writing, and querying. All three of these things have to do with writing, and you have to set time aside for each.
Before you query, take a step back and look at your writing. “Whenever you feel that you’re ready, take a week,” and remember that “[y]our writer’s group can help you solve your problems…not your agent.”
You can only query one agent with one project at a time. If you go back and make changes, odd are that agent doesn’t want to hear about that project anymore.
When you’re ready to submit your work, set up the excel spreadsheet and aim to get a hundred rejections a year. Rejection is a “necessary step,” in the writing process. “It can happen anywhere,” even to the most successful writer.
But keep writing and keep submitting. If you get a rejection, and then another one, and then another one after that, then guess what? You have only three rejections and need ninety-seven more to finish out your list! Odds are you’re going to be surprised because the best thing you write might be the thing people like the best.
And don’t forget: if you’re writing a novel and you go “Now I have an agent! I’m done,” then you’re wrong. You haven’t even gotten started yet, but you’re ready.
Saturday Night Live alum and stand-up comedian is always ready to share his thoughts on life in a funny way, and fans will be able to read what’s on his mind in a new book.
The New York Times reported that My First Black Boyfriend, a collection of essays written by Rock about his experiences with race, relationships and comedy, will be released in Fall 2020. The book will be published via Celadon, a division of Macmillan.
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Celadon VP Deb Fuller believes that the collection will “point out things that may need to be pointed out in this crazy world.”
“A lot of celebrities write books, and they don’t always have something to say. I think Chris Rock has something to say.”
This new collection isn’t the only project Rock is working on: He is currently starring in a new Netflix film, Dolemite Is My Name, on Netflix.