These Three Books Will Help You Love Yourself More

This week’s Three to Read brings you books for cultivating self-love. Read on to learn how to tend to your relationship with yourself!

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Real Self-Care cover by Pooja Lakshmin, Real Talk cover by Tasha Bailey, and Xoxo, Cody cover by Cody Rigsby under a snowy Bookstr logo.

Cuffing season is over, so it’s time to turn your attention inward. After all, your relationship with yourself is more important than any other relationship in your life, even romantic ones. Therefore, in honor of self-love month, we’re sharing three books to help you find compassion, respect, and appreciation for yourself. If you’ve been neglecting your mental well-being, these books are exactly what you need to kickstart your self-love journey. Keep reading to explore this week’s Three to Read recommendations!


Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program For Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included) by Pooja Lakshmin

Real Self-Care cover by Pooja Lakshmin, pink background with colorful overlapping circles.


In Real Self-Care, women’s mental health specialist Pooja Lakshmin, MD, delivers an examination of the wellness industry’s contradictory advice, as well as a self-care plan that will allow you to reclaim control over your life. While our collective idea of self-care has become distorted by popular media, true self-care doesn’t come in the form of a juice cleanse or a meditation retreat. Instead, self-care is a process of self-reflection that helps us enact lasting change to find peace and let go of what’s holding us back.


If you struggle with setting boundaries and committing to difficult decisions that will better your life, you need to read Real Self-Care. Lakshmin provides readers with a step-by-step program that will help them know themselves better and claim the life they deserve. Though practicing real self-care isn’t always easy, Lakshmin approaches the process with realistic advice derived from clinical research and case studies from her practice. For anyone who feels disempowered and overwhelmed, this revolutionary book is your roadmap to solace.


Real Talk: Lessons from Therapy on Healing & Self-Love by Tasha Bailey

Real Talk cover by Tasha Bailey, gold circles on a cream background.


In Real Talk, psychotherapist Tasha Bailey offers her therapist’s toolkit to you. Touching on a range of topics — from self-esteem to trauma to trust and attachment — this book gives readers the tools to work through their emotional struggles and face their everyday challenges. Here, Bailey applies an intersectional perspective to the subject of mental health, pulling from her real-life experiences as a psychotherapist to share valuable knowledge and skills that will enable readers to change their lives for the better.


Real Talk is a therapy session in book form. Tasha Bailey’s honest, yet compassionate advice will help you have honest conversations with yourself as you work towards healing and self-understanding. The real-life experiences Bailey draws from — both personal lived experiences and case studies from her work — allow her to approach mental well-being from an inclusive and creative perspective. Undoubtedly, this is a must-read handbook for anyone in need of a little self-love.


Xoxo, Cody: An Opinionated Homosexual’s Guide to Self-Love, Relationships, and Tactful Pettiness by Cody Rigsby

Xoxo, Cody cover by Cody Rigsby, Cody smiling and wearing a red suit in front of a red background.


In Xoxo, Cody, beloved fitness instructor Cody Rigsby recounts his journey to self-acceptance and reveals the secrets to his success. Best known for his iconic Peloton workouts, Cody exudes confidence and self-love. However, he wasn’t always this way. On his path to New York City stardom, he had to contend with growing up gay in the South, losing loved ones to addiction, and restoring his fractured relationship with his mother. Through these experiences, Cody learned his most valuable lesson: never take yourself too seriously.


If you’re in the market for an inspiring success story that will help you find your own happiness, Xoxo, Cody is exactly what you’re looking for. When life gets tough, it can be hard to find levity. But this book is a much-needed reminder that it’s okay to laugh at ourselves. If you’ve ever held yourself back for fear of what others might think of you, Cody’s story encourages you to just go for it! Equal parts witty and vulnerable, this book is the perfect pep talk for when you need a little encouragement.

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