I’ve never been one to collect self help books, but every so often one comes my way I can’t pass up. Two I can actually recommend because someone I respected recommended them to me, and I genuinely enjoyed them are: You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life and Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl―A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship.
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So what is it about self help books that actually makes them helpful? I mean like, regardless of the content? What is it that makes them so effective? Because they are. There’s a huge industry for them. Any problem you can conceive of, there’s a self help book for that.
1. They’re like a good friend bitch slapping you with a reality check.
You know you have a good friend when they call you on your bullshit as soon as it comes out of your mouth. My friend Devin recently metaphorically backhanded me with some truth and while yes, it stung, I was better for it. You don’t know you’re dreaming until you wake up, and you can’t realize you’re poisoning your own well with your own toxic tendencies until someone snaps you out of it.
2. Sometimes they include stickers, which is nice.
3. Someone smarter, wiser, etc. has done all the hard work already.
And they’re giving you an outline. You literally don’t have to think at all, you just need to be able to follow directions. Which granted, is sometimes difficult for me. Very difficult for me. The first test I ever failed, it was because I failed to follow directions. 5th grade, 53/100. Not my best day.
4. You might be an adult, but you definitely need someone to hold your hand through your problem.
It’s the same reason why you willingly let your mother fuss over you and do things for you after you haven’t seen her in a while. Sure, you could do it all yourself, but it’s hard and she does it better and also why would you want to do it when someone could do it for you?
5. It’s comforting to know that other people have this problem too.
You’re not completely useless. Other people are just as useless as well!
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